Friday, January 22, 2010
5:40 PM | Edit Post
My friend Melissa recently bought a new home, and I drove out to go visit and see it. We grabbed a cup of tea and sat down in front of the beautiful picture window facing her back yard. I immediately noticed that there were gorgeous fruit trees growing out there, along with some wild raspberries along the fence. How lovely! I smiled and commented with enthusiasm about how much they must enjoy having that lovely fruit out there for them to enjoy any time. How much her children must enjoy snagging a fresh snack while they play!
Melissa frowned. "Oh, we don't eat it" Oh dear! I asked if there was a bug problem or something. She mumbled some vague things about how hard they are to take care of, she just doesn't know how, store-bought is so much easier. Plus, they put extra vitamins in those boxed fruit snacks and stuff, so why bother with the stuff growing out there. How strange, I thought! I told her I had some experience with growing things, and would be happy to lend a hand, but she just brushed me off, and repeated that she was just unable. Unable, or unwilling? Surely, there are plenty of people, books, or websites she could have turned to for some help if she was really having a hard time knowing how to care for the trees.
Melissa had sun and rain provided by nature, an able body, and even a shed with some yard tools. What was her problem? Was she that lazy? Was she just assuming it was more work than it really was? Sure, there might be some weeds or bugs now and then, but surely all that lovely natural fruit out there was worth a little trouble! How many people would love to have that for their family to enjoy! I sighed over the waste, and tried not to cringe when she tossed her kids some packs of squishy fruit snacks.
How many other women waste the beautiful, natural food they were given to bless their children with? Instead of choosing fruit snacks over fresh fruit, many choose formula over breast milk. So many claim that they were unable. Unable, or unwilling? If your garden has some weeds or bugs, it does not mean you are completely unable to garden! Some people have gardens plagued with rocks, weeds, and bugs, and they still manage to overcome. Put your gloves on, dig in, and make it happen! Research and ask for help if necessary. The rewards will be reaped for a long time.
It hurts my heart when people waste their beautiful and natural abilities. We wouldn't want our children to give up on something important, so why give up so quickly on feeding them in the way that God/Nature gave you and your precious child? It sends a silent message saying "You're just not worth the effort". Although most parents deeply love their children and wouldn't intentionally say that to their child, not giving breastfeeding a true effort IS suggesting that you feel that way. What other areas of parenting will you do half-heartedly? How many other ways will you give up on your child when they really need you to persevere?
Please, if there are a few bugs in your trees, or weeds in your garden, don't give up. Don't just let that beautiful fruit rot away. A fresh homegrown apple beats fruit snacks any day! Apples and breasts are not "better" than fruit snacks and formula. They are natural and normal. Anything else is artificial and deficient. Put your mind to it, get some help if you need it, and know that you and your child will be richly blessed for that effort in the end.
(I'm sure that some people are bound to gripe and complain that they are in the 2% of women that are truly unable to breastfeed. Obviously, those with a valid reason are not being attacked here. I do believe there are far more people claiming to be "incapable" than there really are. Whether or not you are one of those people is for you to examine in your own heart. If you really did try your best and were still unable, then there's nothing to feel bad about)
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