Friday, February 26, 2010
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"Don't judge me, this is my CHOICE!"
"I refuse to feel guilty for making an educated choice to not put my
baby in a car seat. There are so many militant car seat users in our society
and I am tired of them pushing their beliefs on me. There are lots of
reasons I have made this choice.
First of all, I want my husband to be able to
drive him around in his car. He can just sit him on his lap when they go for a
ride. This will help him bond and be closer with our son. I don't
want to be the only one that drives him around. It makes my husband, mother and
friends feel special when they can take him for rides. I will be returning to work in 6 weeks and I don't want a big old car seat in the back of our luxury car. I
never put my first son in a car seat and he is just fine. I was never in a car
seat, neither was my mother and we are both as healthy as can be. On the other
hand, my sister in law's cousin used a car seat and her child was seriously
injured in a car wreck. My aunt tried to use a car seat and wasn't able to.
She was never able to latch the baby in the seat properly. In fact, my car
is too small for a car seat anyway.
What matters most is that my baby is healthy and happy. When I left the hospital, they told me that I should try to use the car
seat, but if it didn't work out that it was all right to not use it. In
fact, in the diaper bag that I received from the hospital, it has some
information for how to safely ride in the car with my son without a car
seat. I tried for 1 week to use a car seat with my first son and it made
both of us miserable. I told my pediatrician about it, and he said it
would probably be best to not use a car seat anymore. Now he is happy and
content sitting on my lap as we drive.
Using a car seat is just so inconvenient! My privacy is also an issue. Do I want everyone to know when they see my car that I have a child??? Besides, my children need to learn how to ride in the car without being in the car seat. I don't want a 3 year old still
wanting to get in his seat! I know that using a car seat has some benefits, but
there are a lot of people out there who don't use them and their kids
are just fine! There are people out there that cannot use a car seat (can't
latch baby in properly, car is too small, doesn't match with the
interior). Using a car seat is a personal choice and nobody's business. As a
parent I have made the decision for what is best for my child. It works best
for us and our child.....and that is all that is important. It's my choice
after all, isn't it??"
In case you missed it, this is a satire about breastfeeding, and I am not the Author :-P
Not breastfeeding poses risks, just as driving without baby in a car seat poses risks. One, we're willing to make and accept all sorts of excuses about, even if they're stupid, the other is a risk no one (sane) would dream of taking. Hmmm...
Yeah, yeah, yeah "Some people CAN'T breastfeed", "Who are you to judge?", blah blah blah. Say what you will, there are some points raised here worth thinking about and discussing.
Sure, if your kid is in a full body cast or something, you "can't" put them in a car seat. But if you could, you would, right? You wouldn't make lame excuses, because safety comes first. There are some things we can't keep our children safe from, and some risks we can only partially protect against. When you DO have a chance to avoid putting a child at needless risk, don't you take it?
Using a car seat isn't "best", it is normal. Anything else carries increased risk to the child. The same applies to infant feeding. Breastfeeding isn't "best", it is normal. Anything else carries increased risk to the child. A child riding without a car seat may be "fine", but not all are, and the worst may be yet to come. Again, the same can be said about infant feeding. "Fine" may be temporary, and you won't know until it is too late.
To go with the analogy, this isn't about "you fail as a mom for not using car seats". This is about "Whenever possible, baby needs to be in a car seat". We can help other moms who are struggling, learn to properly use their "car seats", to have faith in them, to overcome the difficulties, and to care about safety above vanity and convenience. Then they'll never have to think "If only I had used a car seat..."
*Risks of artificial feeding*
*What every parent should know about formula*
*The risks and disadvantages of formula feeding*
*101 Reasons to Breastfeed*
- ▼ February (9)